Many people think about couples counseling, but don't go. Some may threaten each other with it: "That does it, we're going!" But how do you know if you should see a couples therapist? Will it help resolve the problems you face? Could it make things worse? One reason couples don't go for counseling is a belief that it means they've failed in their relationship. (Not true!) Surveys by professional associations vary, but most show about twice as many couples reporting improvement in their…

Alone for the holidays? Many people are fine being alone for the holidays. But if loneliness is an ongoing issue, don't accept it as "your fate" or something you "need to get used to." Research on loneliness indicates it's a health hazard, like lack of exercise, and more dangerous than obesity. It can lead to depression, damage the circulatory system, and shorten lifespan. Tips: Do not reason your way out of feeling lonely. Don't fill the void with social media time. Instead, take action to…

Worry is similar to an autoimmune response -- attacking your thoughts with negative self-talk, frightening images, and fear. It can feel impossible to fight off or flee this negative feedback loop. Relief comes with a plan. Create one that targets the "what ifs" that are keeping you in turmoil. Experiment to see if this exercise empowers you and releases worry's grip. Write: "The problem or issue I am worried about right now is (describe the problem or threat). If this problem continues, these…

When Sunday night arrives, are you experiencing dread about going to work the next day? Is it because you don't like your job, or could it be depression? It can be hard to tell. There are different types of depression with different causes. But an assessment by a qualified professional or EAP can help you find out. At the very least, you'll know the next steps to get out of the rut. Other symptoms of depression that may appear job-related include not feeling as good at your job as you used to…