If your family holiday get-togethers are often stressful with personality clashes, try these ideas to help you enjoy the season more and look forward to getting together next year. 1) Begin with the right mind-set---decide that you will detach from slights and snubs, and refuse to allow your "buttons to be pushed." Mentally rehearse new responses to predictable interactions. Commit to a different response so you will remain cool. If Aunt Bernice criticizes your choice of a serving spoon for the cranberry sauce, instead of reacting with the usual anger reflex, thank her for the tip. 2) Let go of leftover resentments from last year's dustup by beginning with a clean slate. 3) Visitors in your home can be tiresome no matter how much you love them. Consider taking a break ("me time"). Plan these regularly. 4) If you have a vision of a perfect holiday, use this vision as a guideline, not a litmus test for a successful get-together. Decide it is okay to settle for having a positive and memorable time together, but avoid measuring your success by degrees of perfection. 5) Consider taking 2016 election politics off the table.