Domestic abuse is often initially excused by victims as unintentional or a one-time reaction to too much stress. Unfortunately, the psychologically makeup of abusers typically involves ensnaring victims in a dependent relationship that is colored by hope and excitement but ultimately is one that causes the abuse to grow worse. Breaking free can be profoundly difficult, not just because of fear but because of determination to make the relationship work. This can delay an exit plan to save one's life. Some victims pride themselves on their ability to manage stress, care for others, take on all the domestic chores, and even find time to offer guidance to friends with relationship problems. If you are in a abusive relationship and identify with these signs of struggle, become educated about domestic abuse victimization by seeking counseling to help you. Your EAP may also be a resource to help you determine a course of action. For many domestic violence victims, leaving feels like it is not an option in part because of a belief that they haven't tried hard enough to transform the abuser. Don't let this be you.